From today’s Hindu Sunday Magazine:
These women left socially secure marriages with men to find love, respect, and authenticity away from the rigid family structure.
“Why is it that I can’t be someone at 20, someone else at 30, and someone quite different at 40? Sexuality is exploration.”
The year I turned 40, I decided to leave my marriage of 17 years for a woman. This is not an easy sentence to write, and I understand that in the process I may hurt a few people — I have a son, and parents, and an ex-husband who I am still very fond of. Love has no reason and sometimes takes on strange shapes that are inexplicable.
But writing about something that is a lived experience for me, and concealing my name would mean that I am operating from a place of shame, guilt, and fear, built up over decades, like thick castle walls. Individually, they can be deadly; together, they can erode, until you forget who you really are. And authenticity is having a moment — at least in my life.
Mine was not a journey towards lesbianism at all, but a connection with a person who happened to be female.
Continued in the link below.
https://www.thehindu.com/society/late-life-lesbians-wives-discover-gay-india-raga-dsilva-marriage-women-leave-husbands-lgbtqia-sumita-beethi/article66591147.ece